Growing up with relaxed hair, from childhood to adolescence, and being surrounded by people with straight, curly, or extended hair profoundly influences one's perception of their natural hair. Very early on, one learns that natural hair is just "root growth." Instead of saying "my hair has grown out," one says "I have roots," as if these curls weren't truly their own.

For many, the only visible curls at this age are those of underarm or pubic hair. Straight or relaxed hair remains the norm, even in adolescence and adulthood. This norm can create a disconnect between what we see in the mirror and what we desire for ourselves.

The difficulty of returning to a natural state

Returning to one's natural self is not easy. Some people take several weeks, months, or even years before they can expose themselves or fully accept themselves. Some rarely expose themselves because they are not used to seeing themselves differently.

The path to learning to love yourself begins with being natural, without pretense : regardless of looks or comments, it's about finding your own self-esteem and staying true to yourself. You must maintain your style, but above all, get used to seeing yourself as you are , even during the transition.

The transition and the cuts

Depending on each person's journey, it's possible to transition gradually or cut off relaxed hair directly. In any case, the important thing is to find hairstyles that you like and that flatter you , without trying to imitate others.

For those who grew up with chemically straightened hair in the 90s, 2000s, or early 2000s, hair was fragile and broke easily. Achieving any length was a feat, especially with the products of the time that didn't always protect the hair. Today, returning to natural hair requires patience, observation, and respect for its texture.

It's important to understand that the concept of length differs depending on whether one has relaxed or natural hair . What was considered long when relaxed may appear short or different when natural, and the perception of the hair's beauty and value changes accordingly.

Learn how to manipulate your hair

Many people find themselves with long, naturally curly hair but don't know how to manage it. They grew up with their hair constantly styled in braids or with protective coverings, and never learned how to work with their curls. As a result, they don't know how to detangle, style, or appreciate their hair as it is.

During the first few months, it is essential to:

• Observe its texture and understand how hair reacts to humidity and products.
• Try out different hairstyles to identify the ones that suit us.
• Learn to handle your hair gently, without rushing, to avoid breakage and frustration.

Regular practice makes maintenance easier and helps build confidence. Getting to know your hair also means recognizing its beauty and uniqueness .

Stay true to yourself and feel beautiful

Loving yourself with your natural hair also means feeling beautiful both mentally and physically , just as you felt beautiful as a child or teenager with your usual hairstyles. It's not about changing your clothing style, but about finding a cut and style that flatter you.

Short hair isn't for everyone, just like long hair isn't. The most important thing is to feel good in your mind and body , while staying true to yourself. It's normal for some people to take longer than others to appreciate their curls, but every step is part of this process of self-acceptance and self-love.

Tips for loving yourself naturally

To enrich your experience and facilitate the transition:

• Observe your hair without camouflaging it : avoid wigs or permanent braids for the first few weeks.
• Try simple and natural skincare : hydration, vegetable oils, creams adapted according to texture.
• Take regular photos to see the evolution and celebrate the progress.
• To be inspired without comparing oneself : to follow people with similar textures, but while maintaining one's uniqueness.
• Have fun with hairstyles : loose curls, twists, wash and go, bantu knots… The important thing is to experiment and feel good.

Loving yourself with your natural hair is a gradual learning process , combining patience, observation, and practice. It's not just about styling, but about self-acceptance , discovering your texture and your identity. Every curl is unique and deserves to be understood and valued. By staying true to yourself, taking the time to get to know your hair, and celebrating each step of the transition, it becomes possible to love yourself fully and naturally.

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